The Key to a Happy Marriage!!

Love is a beautiful feeling. A feeling of warmth, purple & white orchids, serene sunset, blue skies with stars twinkling and butterflies in the stomach. The sparkling eyes, a mere smile or just the presence of that “the one” is enough to get the adrenaline rush. For someone who always dreamt of love like romantic fairy-tale movies, marrying the one and only is the ultimate destination.

You find that person, both family agrees and you get married. Then you plan for your honeymoon. Mountains or Beaches? Beaches or Landscape? You give your choice, you feel thrilled your husband has the same place in mind. Excotic Location — Check
Romantic Holiday — Check
Cheesy Couple Goals — Check
Dreamy Time Spent— Check
You feel life is beautiful. Your husband is perfect. Your parents are happy because you are cheerful even if not with them. They thank God for blessing them to take the best decision of their life. What else do you need!!

With time, reality hits hard. You try your best to fit in to his family, make efforts to impress everyone and eventually his family is happy with you too. You get familiar with everyone at home , you try to read their expectations and work accordingly. With time you make a place for yourself in that house because he is important to you. You have been taught to value him and his family and so you do.

You get familiar with his past life, his past experiences and how he has shut everyone from his life. Being the sincere and hardworking kind he is, a lot is expected out of him at work and so he works like crazy. Yes he gives time to me too but that has decreased with time. And time to my family, Oh! that has never been in his list. But yes, that is not his fault, he has not been taught to do so. But at least he can give a slightest of try to learn it , from me may be. There are a lot of things which is not expected out of me “technically”, but I do it, for his family, for his parents and for him; to make them happy; because that is what I have learnt since childhood; to value family and make them happy. But he is very practical, which is fair, because may be God was not that generous to him since childhood.

Yes we ain’t one of those cheesy couples any more, never were!

It has been close to 3 years of our marriage and we still have a long way to go. There definitely comes times when I wished things were different. Of course we have our differences, a different thought process , because we are 2 strong individuals. I ain’t no expert, I am learning, I make mistakes , accept them and learn again. But this effort should never be one-sided. I have no key for a happy marriage but my husband should recognise the efforts and should at least try to reciprocate.

All I expect is a true partnership. I know there will be highs and lows and it is a hard road. But I learnt that the key is to really respect the one and his choices.